Making Time For Each Other

Couples tend to get so busy running the kids here and there that they let their private couple time fall to the wayside. But that’s not healthy for your marriage.

“We have to be intentional about making time together,” Gayle says. “But instead of expecting a certain amount of couple time, we have to be creative and find time together when we can. Sometimes it’s a lunch or when the boys are sleeping or at sports practice, but we find the time to be together. Because life is so busy, we have to let it happen when we can.”

“One of my favorite times is when just the two of us,” Steve says, “go to a restaurant at 9 o’clock at night and share an appetizer. That’s just how it is in this season of life.”

Gayle says, “We also need to make time to get away as a couple. It’s different for every couple, but for us, a yearly vacation is best. Whether it’s a weekly date night, a once-a-month get away, a quarterly weekend away, or a longer yearly vacation, we know we have to do something and take that time to wind down, de-stress, spend quality time together, and reconnect.”

Gayle and Steve learned to reduce their conflict over time together by adjusting their expectations for this season of their lives. Yet they were also proactive in finding time together when they could. In a blended family, this is a critical thing to do.

How have you made time for each other? I’d love to know!

Adapted from The ReMarriage Adventure: Preparing for a Lifetime of Love & Happiness and Countdown for Couples: Preparing for the Adventure of Marriage. Copyright © 2013, all rights reserved.